Would my future son carry on his father's name or would he have a biblical name like Isaiah? The possibilities were endless!
As a young adult, I babysat for my friends and family as I often as I could. I loved children and couldn't wait to have my own some day. Finally, when I was 29 years old I found out that I was expecting and I was absolutely overjoyed! I day dreamed about soccer practices, birthday parties, and play dates every single day of my pregnancy. But when my son was born with Cerebral Palsy, I found myself mourning the loss of possibilities and all of the hopes and dreams I had for him. I had to accept the fact that despite my unconditional love, there were many things that my son would never be able to do.
This year, Travis will be 13 years old. He cannot walk or talk, but having him in my life is unequivocally the best thing that has ever happened to me. Life hasn't always been easy and there have been many moments of sadness, fear, and uncertainty. But this year, I am embracing the positive. My New Year's resolution is to focus on the CANS!
My son can't walk, but he loves being outdoors. So I CAN take him on more walks in his wheelchair. God knows I could use the exercise.
Travis can't focus on TV, cartoons, or movies but he loves music. So I CAN play his favorite CDs every night. That will be our new bath time ritual.
He can't open presents, but he is fascinated by Christmas lights. So during the holidays, I CAN sit with him next to the Christmas tree and watch his eyes dance as the lights flicker.
Every child is unique and will have his or her strengths, weaknesses, abilities, and limitations. Learn to look at the CANS as gifts. To open the gift you must focus on your child's abilities, not their limitations.
Happy New Year!
